HOSPITALITY
...is not to change people, but to offer them space
where change can take place. It is not to bring men and women
over to our side, but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing
lines. It is not to lead our neighbor into a corner where there
are no alternatives left, but to open wide a spectrum of options
for choice and commitment. It is not an educated intimidation
with good books, good stories and good works, but the liberation
of fearful hearts so that words can find roots and bear ample
fruit.
The paradox of hospitality
is that it wants to create emptiness where strangers can enter
and discover themselves as created free; free to sing their own
songs, speak their own languages, dance their own dance, free
also to leave and follow their own vocations. Hospitality is
not a subtle invitation to adopt the life of the host, but the
gift of a chance for the guest to find his own.
To convert hostility
to hospitality requires the creation of the friendly empty space
where we can reach out to our fellow human beings and invite
them to a new relationship. This conversion is an inner event
that cannot be manipulated but must develop from within. Just
as we cannot force a plant to grow but can take away the weeds
and stones which prevent its development, so we cannot force
anyone to such a personal and intimate change of heart, but can
offer a space where such a change can take place.